How about this one, Wife leaves 3 times in a 23 year marriage ?

23 year marriage, no significant problems until 5 years ago when she was told without proof, evidence, eye witness, that her husband had an affair 12 years earlier. Plus he is accused of having parties with several women at once. The wife never even hints at what she was told to the husband, she is advised and helped to leave while the husband is at work, take what she wants including every penny she could find. Then she and her rescuers find it prudent to not answer phone calls from the husband creating the greatest obstacle they could complete silence. Zero communication.The husband is devastated there was no affair, outta no where and without warning, poof she's gone. The wife after a month or so recognises that she has made a colossal error and returns to the husband. A month goes by when the husband returns from work one day, she notifies him she is leaving, again. Reason unclear something to do with the alleged affair. 12 years earlier, supposedly. Two months elapse when she is convinced that her husband is telling the truth, why the cold, cruel, in sensitive back stabbing attack occurred in the first place, who knows ? That's twice, fast forward 5 more years. She leaves to get milk and the next call received from her is the I'm not coming home call. To recap, Happy marriage 18 years, out side interference, first and second separation. Now its five years since the second separation over 15 years since the bs affair and the end of March 2011, she is now over 300 miles away, very little contact yet she says,please don't divorce me, and move here you can get a place and I will stay here ( with family ). I really don't have a question, I just had to tell the story...WTF ? Oh yea, the husband sort of adopted her family as his own because he didn't have his own. Now she has created such a divide that the sudo family is ice cold to him...really WTF...? Wait, I have a question, if you were the family of the wife, given a 27 year history that was all good, would you, could you, just turn you back on the husband without even a call or letter or e-mail or smoke signal..just completely ignore his calls, texts....The husband is pretty cool, always there when needed without asking and without expecting anything in return. Like that unconditional thing we hear so much about...So, is that ok or should the family have called him to see if he was ok first and second to mediate some sort of communication obviously there's a problem but after 27 years without problem's of any kind, doesn't make sense to try to work it out for a minute anyway. it's not like there was wife beating or anything that is out of ordinary. Well, there ya go...like I said before...WTF ?